Divorce is a scary word, and it is never easy. Many people love to drag their drama through the court system, though there is a better way. Divorce mediation can help a couple sort through their possessions quicker and easier than going in front of a judge.
That being said, mediation can be the hardest thing that you may ever have to do. Here are some more tips to help you through your online divorce mediation.
Know your financial situation. Finances are often the hardest (after children) part of becoming divorced. You have to go through your bank statements, including your checking and savings accounts. You may have several retirement accounts to divide up. Have a list of your debts too. This may include any loans (mortgage, car, etc.) and credit cards. All of this has to be divided.
Keep mediation sessions for dividing up your possessions. You don’t need to air your dirty laundry to your mediator. He or she is not going to take sides and make sure that one person comes out ahead of the other. He or she is going to help you muddle through the division of your possessions.
Besides, the longer it takes, the more money it is going to cost you. That is another reason to stay on topic during your sessions.
Don’t get emotional. Divorce is extremely emotional, and many couples are dealing with many different emotions – from anger, pain, and disbelief. Sometimes, they all hit you at once.
However, you can’t bring them to your mediation sessions. When you get emotional, you won’t get anywhere. If you feel like you need a moment to catch your breath, take a break. Walk outside and get some fresh air. Come in ready to try again. You will get a lot farther when you are emotionally ready to talk.
Before you even get started, you need to know your financial situation. You need to know what you are dealing with before you can figure out how to divide it. You also need to be prepared for your sessions. You need to stay on topic and don’t get emotional, or you won’t get anywhere!
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