Getting divorced is never easy. Trying to keep your drama out of the courtroom is always the best way, though it can be challenging. For this reason, many people turn to divorce mediation, hoping that they can work out their troubles without ending up in front of a judge. Some people even try to do it online, with some success.
That being said, mediation can be the hardest thing that you may ever have to do. Here are some tips to help you through your online divorce mediation.
Know what you want, need, and would like. When you start negotiations, it is important to know what are deal breakers for you. What aren’t you willing to negotiate on? Is it the house? The children? The dog? Maybe you got your grandparent’s car and you think that you should be able to keep it.
Then, decide what you would really like, but you are alright with doing some negotiating on. You may also want a list of things that you don’t really care about at all. By doing this, you are coming to the meeting prepared.
Always remember that if you can’t compromise, you are going to end up in court – costing you precious time and money. If you are struggling to get through mediation, it might help to remember that you could be in court. If you keep arguing, you could end up battling in court, so take a deep breath and just try to get through this difficult time.
Get it in writing. It is important that, as you hash out the details of your divorce, you get them in writing. Everything that you decide needs to be put in the contract, even if you think that your spouse will agree to it. It is better to have it written down than be sorry down the line when things change.
Before you even get started, you need to have a plan. What things can you live without and what are deal breakers? You need to have some place to start, and this should help. As you go through mediation, you also need to remember that, if you aren’t willing to give at all, you could end up in court, which will end up costing you a lot more time and money.
Contact us to help you get through this difficult time.