If you’re in the initial stages of the divorce process, you may be preparing for a drawn-out conflict with painful emotional consequences. Although divorce is always a difficult life event, mediation can make a world of difference by helping both parties reach mutual understanding. Online mediation is a convenient tool that provides an alternative to letting the courts make sensitive decisions for your family. The benefits of mediation can save the divorcing couple a substantial amount of time, money, and stress. Here’s what you should expect from the mediation process.

What Should You Expect From Divorce Mediation?

The Mediator Will Not Make Decisions For You

Your mediator is a neutral third party that guides the conversation to a productive conclusion everyone can live with. Unlike a judge or arbiter, the mediator does not make any decisions on behalf of you or your spouse. The mediator’s role is only to provide a helpful structure to the conversation. They can reduce tension, facilitate open communication, and move the negotiations along. Mediators will often use methods to help each spouse express their point of view clearly. Being able to understand the other person’s perspective is crucial for finding common ground and a long term resolution.

The Goals of Mediation

Making hard decisions with the guidance of a neutral party reduces conflict. Instead of letting the courts decide, a successful mediation offers divorcing couples a cost-effective opportunity to resolve disputes. More importantly, the mediation process can reduce the negative emotional fallout of the divorce process, especially if children are involved. Going forward, you will be able to use the terms established during your mediation to guide future discussions.

Issues Discussed During Mediation

During the initial stage of mediation, both parties will have a chance to list concerns. The mediator will address them systematically, making sure that each side is heard. Be prepared to talk about every aspect of your legal separation, including the division of assets and decisions about custody or child residency. Prepare for your mediation session by making sure you have a full list of relevant documents, such as information about assets, debts, income, childcare costs, mortgage or car payments, and major expenses.

Contact me to learn much more about how mediation can improve the divorce process.